How to find a living donor
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Welcome to our question and answer page for finding a living donor.
Below is commonly requested information about finding a living donor. We hope you find it helpful.
I have so much to do and I don’t feel well – why do I need to learn about living donor transplantation now?
When you hear you need an organ transplant, things can feel really out of control.
One of the best ways to get a sense of control back in your life is to learn all your options. A very important option is living donor transplantation.
Taking the time to read this brochure will help you learn:
- What living donor transplantation is and why it is an important option for you
- How to get comfortable talking about your need and living donor transplantation with others
- Why it is so important to involve your family and friends right away
- How important it is for you, your family, and friends to tell your story everywhere you can
- The best ways to learn more about living donor transplantation
What is living donor transplantation?
Living donor transplantation is when a living person donates an organ or a part of an organ that is transplanted into another person.
The organ most often donated by a living person is a kidney. The next most common living donor organ is a portion of the liver.
A living donor transplant can shorten your wait
Many people can wait years for a kidney transplant from a deceased donor. People also can spend years waiting for a liver transplant.
Only about half of the people in the United States sign up to donate their organs when they die. This number is different in every state and region, so the wait can be longer depending on where you live.
Every year, thousands of people get removed from the waitlist because they have grown too sick to make it through a transplant.
Living donor transplantation can help shorten or eliminate the wait by:
- Giving you more options about where and when a transplant happens
- Helping you get an organ transplant even before you begin dialysis, if you are a kidney patient
"When we found out my brother needed a transplant, we also learned that African Americans are more likely to have medical conditions that lead to kidney disease. More than anything, I wanted my brother to get off of dialysis and get back to his life. For me, the best way to do that was to be his living kidney donor. I’d do it again in a heartbeat.” – David
Living donor transplantation can improve your chances of success
Organs from living donors generally have high success rates:
- On average, living donor kidney transplants work longer than kidney transplants from deceased donors.
- On average, living donor liver transplants also have as good or better outcomes compared to liver transplants from deceased donors.
Living organ donors make about 6,500 transplants possible each year.
What if asking for an organ from someone seems unthinkable?
Most of us don’t even like to ask for a ride. The idea of asking someone to be a living organ donor - to give a kidney or a part of a liver - seems unthinkable.
But, one out of four people say they would be willing to donate an organ.
People donate organs to:
- A family member
- A good friend
- Sometimes, someone they’ve never even met
About 90 to 95 out of every 100 donors say they would not change anything about their decision to donate. They would go through all the screenings, tests, and the surgery. They would take time away from their lives, jobs, and other commitments to recover. They would do all of that to help someone.
Learn about living donor transplantation
Where is the best place to learn?
Your transplant program is the best place to learn whether a transplant from a living donor might be right for you. Talk to your transplant hospital staff about living donor transplantation during your first visit. If you’ve already had your first visit, call your transplant staff and ask to talk about living donor transplantation. They will be happy you asked.
You also can find a lot of information online.
Some websites have useful information about living donor transplantation and living donation. Others can be wonderful sources of social support. In fact, most transplant centers have information about living donor transplantation on their websites. Some use social media, too.
As with any subject, some places on the Internet can also have information that isn’t true. Sometimes, even well-meaning friends unknowingly pass on incorrect information from these sources. Knowing what information to trust can be a challenge. Always check in with your transplant hospital staff if you have read or heard anything that leaves you with questions.
What will my transplant center teach me?
The point of living donor transplantation education is simple. It is to help you learn about the potential for a living donor transplant. It also will help you, your family, and friends become more comfortable talking about living donor transplantation and organ donation. Getting comfortable with talking about your need for an organ donor is important, because telling your story is where everything starts.
You will get the facts from transplant professionals, such as doctors, nurses, and social workers. Talking about living donor transplantation and organ donation is one of the most important things transplant center staff do every day.
Once you learn the facts, it’s easier to talk with others.
You will get information about:
- Risks and benefits of living donor transplantation
- Risks and benefits for living donors
- Living donor testing
- Living donor surgery and transplantation
- Living donor recovery
- Potential costs to donors for things like travel and lodging
- How much time a donor might need to take off from work
Transplant centers have different ways to help you learn
Here are some of the ways your transplant hospital may help you learn about living donor transplantation. Your team may have others. Transplant hospitals are always working to come up with new ways to make it easy for people in your shoes to learn.
- Education for your support team. Sometimes, transplant program staff can meet you in a comfortable place with plenty of room for your support team, such as a community center, a library or your home. When friends and family learn with you, it helps them get comfortable sharing your story, too. Your support team could include:
- Friends and family
- People at your place of worship
- Anyone else who hears about your need and wants to support you
- Conversations with people who’ve looked for a living organ donor. Some transplant centers may be able to connect you with people who have also looked for a living donor. Learning how others told their story helps you do the same.
- Conversations with living organ donors and with people who have received an organ from a living donor. Some transplant hospitals can arrange for you to talk with living organ donors and/or living donor transplant recipients. Hearing others’ experiences can help you feel more at ease about the idea of someone donating to you. They can help you learn about things like:
- Surgery for the donor and recipient
- Recovery of the donor and recipient
- Quality of life after transplant and donation
Education for your Living Donor Champion. Some transplant programs help educate your living donor champion so that they can help spread the word about your need for an organ donor. A champion is someone who advocates for you—everyone needs a champion sometimes. There’s no better time to let someone be yours. Your champion can learn:
- How to talk about living donation and transplantation
- How to identify your social network
- How to tell your story
If your child needs a transplant, you can be your child’s Living Donor Champion and help to find a donor. Learn how to tell your child’s story and spread the word about living donation.
Each of these approaches may increase the chance that someone will start thinking about being a living donor, and in some cases, lead to a transplant. Take advantage of all the education your transplant program can offer. You can also:
- Learn with family and friends
- Talk to others who have found living donors
- Learn in a comfortable place
- Talk to people who have donated
- Get a Living Donor Champion
- Read transplant hospital educational material
- Share your story on social media
- Have others share your story
Get support and spread the word
What if I feel a little overwhelmed by all of this?
Build a support team
Everyone needs a support team. When you need a transplant, there is a lot to learn and a lot to do. At times, it can all feel like it’s just too much.
Becoming a transplant candidate, or being the parent of a child who needs a transplant, is much easier when you don’t try to do it all alone. You need support. When you learn about living donor transplantation, bring family and friends with you. In fact, your transplant hospital will expect that you have support from family or friends. Including your family and friends will:
- Help you remember what you need to do
- Let others know the best way to help you
- Increase the number of conversations that happen about your need and living donor transplantation
The more your family and friends learn about living donor transplantation and organ donation, the more they will talk about it with others. Every conversation increases the chance that a potential living donor will learn about you or your child’s need.
“My mom was like she’s always been. Talked and shouted about my need– this time for a living donor – from the rooftop. And here I am, enjoying life after my living donor transplant.” – Elizabeth
Share your story in any and every way that is comfortable for you:
- At work
- In a community group or club
- In a place of worship
- On social media
- On a sign on your car
- Any other place where you or your family and friends can reach people
A word about social media
A great way to get support and to maintain hope is for you or your friends and family to share your journey with kidney or liver disease on social media. Social media lets you share your story with the world simply, quickly, and at no cost.
The usage of social media continues to evolve rapidly. Discuss with your transplant team the benefits and risks of a social media campaign.
Share the right information
Talk with your transplant program staff about how to tell you or your child’s story in a way that is safe, effective, and ethical.
For example, you may wish to share information such as:
- You or your child’s journey with kidney or liver disease
- How the need for a transplant has changed you or your child’s life
- A little about your family
- Whether your family has tested to donate and perhaps why they can’t donate
Other details you may want to share include:
- What organ is needed
- Blood type
- How long the wait may be
- The advantages of living donation compared to deceased donation
- The state where you live
- Your transplant center contact
Share the good and the bad
A transplant requires just one donor, so keep sharing.
Sharing all your news keeps your story and your need fresh on everyone’s minds. It reminds people that they matter and that you still need their help to spread the word.
Sharing also helps you celebrate the good days and get the support you need to get right back up after the bad days. You will have both.
Share safely and legally
Ask your transplant hospital staff for any advice about how to share health information safely and carefully.
Remember that it is against the law to give money or any other item of value in exchange for a donated organ. Your transplant program staff will be able to talk to you about what expenses are often covered by insurance and what expenses a living donor can get help with. These include travel, lodging, and possibly lost wages.
Let people know they can talk to your transplant center privately
Let people know that they can contact your transplant program directly and privately if they are interested in learning more about donating. They don’t even need to tell you. Sometimes, people wish to be tested without letting the transplant candidate know.
Stay in touch with your transplant center
Let your transplant program know that you plan to share its contact information in advance so that they can be prepared. Staying in touch with your transplant team will help the process work well for everyone.
Stay positive and carry on – no matter what
Finding a living donor might take a long time and a lot of effort. Every road to transplant is different. Expect ups and downs.
When people who know your story spread the word, they just might end up finding a donor for you and for someone else.
Someone might step forward to be a donor right away. Or, the right donor may come forward only after your family and friends spend a lot of time working hard to find one.
Don’t be surprised if someone who wants to donate is not able to, for medical, social, or other reasons.
Don’t be surprised if you feel discouraged from time to time. Embrace the feeling and talk about it. Then carry on, no matter what.
Know the living donation process
What happens when someone says they might be interested in being my living organ donor?
Once someone says they’re interested in being a living donor, the process begins with education. The potential donor and the transplant program have to figure out if living donation is right for that person. Here is how the process often works:
- Someone says they might want to donate.
- The potential donor talks to your transplant program.
- The potential donor and transplant program decide whether to test or whether it’s not right for any reason.
- If both agree, testing begins.
- After testing, the potential donor and transplant program think about whether donating is right for that person and talk more.
- The potential donor may decide not to donate up until the time of surgery.
- Donation and transplantation occur.
When someone steps forward to consider living donation, they are really stepping forward to learn more about the process from transplant professionals. The education process also lets your transplant team learn about that person. Decisions about whether living donation is right for that person are still a long way off for both the potential donor and the transplant center.
The living donor team
The transplant program assigns the person considering donation a living donor team, including their own:
- Medical doctor
- Social worker
- Independent living donor advocate
The team educates the potential donor about the benefits and risks of living donation. The team also assesses if donation is safe for this person.
For the donor evaluation team, success is not whether a transplant happens. Success is getting to the right decision. Sometimes, the right choice is the potential donor deciding not to move forward with donation at that time. Sometimes, the right outcome is the transplant program deciding living donation is not right for the person who had expressed interest.
The first steps
Basic information. The first step is often as simple as the potential donor giving the transplant team staff some basic information by phone or email or even online. This might include the potential donor’s relationship to you and some very basic medical history.
Testing. After that, if both the potential donor and the transplant team think it makes sense to continue, the living donor team will do some testing. The testing is to make sure that the potential donor does not have medical or other issues that make living donation too risky.
Education. The transplant center will talk about all aspects of living donation to be sure the potential donor understands everything in order to make the right decision. This includes:
- Possible non-medical costs related to living donation and how to get help if needed
- The importance of following up with the transplant hospital after donation and lifelong healthy habits and medical check-ups
- How donating could affect a person in the future
During this time, the transplant program will not give you any information about the donor or test results. This is to protect the potential donor’s privacy. In fact, it’s possible for someone to be tested without you even knowing. The transplant program will only tell you if the potential donor asks the program to let you know.
“Living donors are often called selfless. I don’t think I was. There was something giant in it for me. My brother.” – Matthew
The decision about donation only happens after all the needed medical tests and conversations.
Even if the transplant program approves the living donor and that person wants to donate, the living donor may consider the decision and whether or not to donate right up until the day of donation.
After the team decides the potential donor is acceptable, the decision to go forward with donation always belongs to the donor.
What if the person who wants to donate a kidney to me or to my child is not compatible?
If you or your child needs a kidney transplant and finds a willing living kidney donor, but medical tests show that person is not compatible based on blood type or other factors that could lead to organ rejection, you may still be able to have a transplant.
Ask your transplant center to explain your options if someone wants to be a living donor but is not compatible. If one of these options is right for you, it could help someone else’s living donor transplant happen as well.
Kidney paired donation
Living kidney donation and the power of computers help match willing donors and recipients who may live nearby or even across the country. Think about it as a swap or an exchange. Here’s how it works:
- A living donor who is willing to help you or your child is matched to another compatible transplant candidate.
- A special computer then finds someone else's willing donor who is compatible with you or your child.
Matching patients with compatible living donors allows hundreds of people to get transplants each year. Taking part in an exchange also may help you or your child receive a transplant more quickly.
Using an incompatible kidney
Another option may be for a transplant center to prepare your body to receive an organ from a donor who normally would not be a match. This includes getting medical treatments before transplant to help the body accept the organ. Talk with your transplant center about the availability, risks, and benefits of these options.
Here are some organizations that provide trustworthy information about organ disease, living donation, and organ transplantation:
- Review of strategies to support living donor education
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
- List of Transplant Centers
- National Kidney Foundation
- American Liver Foundation
- National Institutes of Health
- National Living Donor Assistance Center
- American Association of Kidney Patients
- United Network for Organ Sharing (UNOS)
When you want even more facts about living donation and organ transplant, ask your transplant center to point you in the right direction.
If you have other questions, contact the Organ Procurement and Transplantation Network (OPTN) Patient Services line at (888) 894-6361, or submit an online question here. Anyone, including potential transplant candidates, candidates, recipients, family members, friends, living donors, or donor family members, can contact Patient Services to discuss organ donation, living donation, the transplant process, the donation process, or transplant policies.
Here is your “to-do” list to help a living donor find you:
- Call your transplant hospital.
- Ask transplant professionals to help you learn about living donor transplantation.
- Involve your family and friends right away and at every step of the way.
- Share your story by talking about your need everywhere possible.
- Grow your support team using social media or other methods.
- Ask someone - your champion - to tell your story far and wide.
- Get support by sharing your news, both good and bad.
- Stay positive. Carry on, no matter what.
Here are some issues to talk about with your transplant program:
- Benefits of early transplant
- Wait times on the list
- Risks of living donation
- Benefits of living donation
- Where to find helpful resources
- What to share on social media
Here are some issues to talk about with a potential living donor:
- Saying yes now is only saying yes to learning more.
- The first step is a conversation with a transplant center.
- Potential donors get evaluated extensively– transplant centers say no to anyone for whom it’s too risky, medically or otherwise.
- Donors can change their minds up until surgery.